A Thanksgiving Confidence Builder

On this day of “Thanksgiving”, I’m going to take a slight detour from my typical financially driven curriculum, and introduce you to a strategy I learned a little while back that has been extremely helpful to me.

With everything that we want to get done, and with the massive amounts of distractions we encounter on a day to day basis, it’s easy to lose our focus and forget about the “big picture”.

And, that “big picture” is for you to bring as much enjoyment and personal satisfaction to your life as you possibly can for as long as you’re able to do it.

Another way of saying that is spending as much of your time as you can doing:

  • what you really want to be doing,
  • where you want to do it, and
  • with whom you want to do it.

Means vs. Goals

Everything else that we talk about is simply a means to move closer and closer to that goal.

Now, all of us have a different definition of enjoyment and personal satisfaction.  That’s what makes life so great.  Every day is a new opportunity to choose what brings enjoyment and satisfaction to your life.

So, given that, here’s my Strategy for you:  Take 15 minutes RIGHT NOW and use it as an opportunity to stop, reflect, and be creatively grateful.

Don’t wait for something to happen or for someone to say or do something to feel grateful.  Instead, use your creative mind to experience gratitude for a moment.

Why?

Because when you’re experiencing a state of “gratitude”, it’s really hard to be fearful.

It’s hard to be anxious.  To be resentful.  To be impatient.  To be angry.  To be bored.  To be sad, etc…

If you doubt this, try it.  It’s impossible!

Now, what should you try and be ‘creatively’ grateful about?  Well, there are endless possibilities, but here’s a quick and easy list:

1. Be grateful for who you’ve become and what you’ve been able to accomplish in your lifetime

2. Be grateful for the fact that you live in a free country (imagine being a woman living in the middle east for a little contrast)

3. Be grateful for the family you have

4. Be grateful for the variety of abilities of others who make your life better and easier by what they do best

5. Be grateful that you’ve made important decisions in your life that have worked out for you

6. Be grateful that you’ve made decisions in the past that didn’t work out, but that you had the opportunity to learn from them in order to make better decisions in the future

7. Be grateful for putting yourself in a position to be financially independent

8. Be grateful for the values that you’ve developed

9. Be grateful for “the little things” that may go unnoticed as you rush through a typical day

Your Confidence Level

Take just 15 “quiet” minutes to really think about these.  And, then notice what happens to your confidence level and your day-to-day mindset.

Like you, I get “caught up” in my day-to-day world of deadlines and solving problems, and lose sight of the big picture.

That’s why it’s so important to take a step back for a moment.

Right now, for instance, I could get caught up in a dozen different things on my “list” that I want to accomplish.  (Actually, I wish it was only a dozen!)

Instead, what I could choose to focus on for just one minute is how grateful I am to have such a terrific group of clients and friends to work and spend all my time with who appreciate what we do.

I have to tell you that just stopping for one minute to think about that changes my entire short and long term outlook.

So, take 15 minutes RIGHT NOW, just 15 minutes, and creatively think about what you are grateful for.  It will completely change your outlook.

Happy Thanksgiving to you and your family!

Committed To Your Relaxing Retirement,

Jack Phelps

The Retirement Coach

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