Getting Ready for the 2011 You Want

Good Morning Relaxing Retirement Member,

2010 is now falling by the wayside and we’re ready to usher in a new year.

Before you say goodbye to 2010 and get yourself ready for 2011, take a moment to reflect and feel good about what improvements took place in your life this year.

Write down anything and everything that comes to mind.  For example:

  • Projects: did you have any projects that you wanted to complete? (house, business, etc.)
  • Health (without it, nothing else matters very much),
  • Books read (it’s been said that the difference between who you are now and who you’ll be in 10 years will be the books you read and the people you meet and interact with)
  • Vacations taken: did you take all of the vacations that you planned on?
  • Fitness: did you stick with your plan?
  • Time spent being “present” with your family?

After listing them all out, take an extra minute and, for each one, write down:

  1. Why it was important to you
  2. What further progress you’d still like to make in that area, and
  3. What’s the first step you need to take right now to do so

Keep your momentum going by taking the next step immediately!

Positive Mode

What this first step does is allow you to recognize success in your life.  That it’s not only possible, but that it has already occurred.

While experiencing this higher level of confidence, now it’s time to move into your bigger and better life going forward.

In today’s world of massive distractions, mixed messages, and more and more people vying for your attention to advance their own personal agendas, it becomes more and more important to take greater and greater ownership and control over your life.

Don’t allow anyone or anything to distract you from living exactly the way you want.

The Secret

The secret to this is having clearly defined goals (or, simply what’s most important to you).  If you don’t, others will do it for you and you’ll be on your deathbed someday questioning why your life turned out the way it did.

I’m a big believer in having lots of clearly defined goals going all the time, some big, some small.  It’s what keeps me going.

I can’t say that I accomplish every one of them, nor do I accomplish them on the timeline I set.  However, having them keeps me focused and allows me to ‘filter out’ what’s just not important to me.  That alone makes it worth it.

I believe it’s a natural tendency for every person to want to improve their lives.

Pursuing what’s in your best interest is not something that has to be taught.  You’re born with that inside of you. And, as long as you don’t use force or aggression against others to achieve it, you should never be discouraged from doing so.  No matter how guilty someone else tries to make you feel.

Progressing Toward Something

The most exciting part of life is knowing that you’re progressing toward something.  And, that’s why it’s so important to have written goals, not just weakly stated ones like new years’ resolutions that go sour the moment you state them.

Goals have a way of magnetically pulling you forward to what’s most important to you. However, like anything else, it requires some action on your part.  You have to constantly and consistently evaluate and adjust your approach.

I actually began doing this way back in high school.  Writing down my goals actually led me to change high schools before my senior year.  (As you can imagine, the overwhelming majority of friends and family members weren’t exactly thrilled with my decision, and it led me to lose some friends along the way.)

However, had I not done so, I never would have been recruited by and attended Holy Cross College.  And, had I not gone to Holy Cross, I probably wouldn’t be living in Massachusetts all these years.

If I didn’t live in Massachusetts, you and I wouldn’t have the relationship we have, and I wouldn’t be writing this to you.

Making that decision based on my written goals led me down a path which put me closer to what I wanted vs. what I didn’t want.

Inspiring Goals Come From Asking Yourself Questions

As we enter 2011, now is a perfect time to ask yourself, “am I closer to or further away from what I really want?”

To answer that question, you have to first be clear on what you really want, not what everyone else thinks you should want.

If you don’t know, then you’re at the mercy of those who have plans for you to carry out what they want! (Think of politicians!)

While you’re thinking about it right now, go to a quiet place, take out a pad of paper, close the door, and allow yourself to just think without interruptions.

Ask yourself this question:

If it was 3 years from today, and I was looking back over those 3 years back to today, what would have to have happened in order for me to feel happy with my progress?”

Now, I’m not just talking about your investments, etc.  I’m talking about your entire life.

Specifically:

  • What would you like to eliminate?
  • What opportunities would you like to take advantage of?
  • What would you like to build on?

(I personally go through this exercise every quarter)

If you’re having a difficult time answering this question, begin with this:  What’s most important to me in ________ (my life, my relationships, my health, etc.)?

Then, what has to happen in order for me to experience ________ (whatever it is that is most important to you)?

As I’ve mentioned before, take money out of the equation for now.  Don’t let ‘perceived’ financial limitations govern your thought process. Remember, money is only a means to get you what you really want.  It’s not the end.

Allow your mind to wander a little and just write down everything that comes to mind.

To increase the likelihood of getting what you want, take 4 more quick steps:

1)   Rewrite the list in order of priority and put it where you can easily see it every day,

2)   Immediately write a plan of action and list out who you need help from (you’d be surprised how much people will help you get what you want, starting with me.  Just ask!)

3)   Measure and Adjust: Nothing ever happens in a straight line.  Expect to have to make adjustments along the way,

4)   Remember: it’s about progress, not perfection.  Reward yourself for your progress!

Here’s to a happy, healthy, and prosperous 2011!  Happy New Year!

Committed To Your Relaxing Retirement,

Jack Phelps

The Retirement Coach

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